Is addiction bad for your family?

Is addiction bad for your family?

I am a friend of Paul & Ronel.I am married to Veronica (32 years) and have already had a fantastic life with her. We work together, believe in Jesus together and have the most amazing family together. I have four brothers (spread across the world and miss them very much) and four (my lucky number) wonderful kids, Andrew married to Mbali, Monica married to ABInBev, Debbie married to Cape Town, and Mark, a recovering addict.

Our life has always been overflowing, from the time we met, spending every weekend attending the local South African Music scene and loving every band we could find. Up until today, where our kids stretch us, a lot further than we ever imagined.

I have spent 25 years in the Data Management field, where I met Paul, and will hopefully work with data until I go home. Veronica is a best teacher that I know, I needed her during my not so stellar school career. I often relate how bad my school marks where when I got G for German, E for English and D for Dutch. Maths, Science and Accounting got me through.

Every year, except during lockdown, we run away from our amazing kids and spend 10 days riding motorbikes in the USA, Canada and/or Europe. The only time I stop thinking about Data is when I get on the bike and I can enjoy a non-data holiday with my brother Stuart, another special person in our lives.
Howard Diesel
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The immediate answer is definitely, but the final answer is that it may be beneficial for your spiritual life! You just need to spend five minutes with a recovering addict or one hour in a family support group for addicts to realise that you have entered a hornet’s nest. As...Read more
What on earth were the Magi thinking?

What on earth were the Magi thinking?

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Paul Grobler
Why did they think a bright star in the heavens signifies the birth of a divine king? Why did they connect it with Israel and Jerusalem of all places? They weren’t even Jewish! And what made them pack their bags and take a long journey to go and meet this...Read more
Letter in the sand: an open conversation with the LGBT community

Letter in the sand: an open conversation with the LGBT community

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Paul Grobler
Our family loves watching movies together. From when the kids were small, it was an opportunity to learn to accommodate each other’s tastes. Sunday nights are movie nights, and we all take turns to pick a movie for the night. We make popcorn, smoothies and later some hot chocolate. When...Read more
Sitting at Heaven’s Gates

Sitting at Heaven’s Gates

I am a fellow Christ follower and married to Paul.We have a teenage daughter, a tween son, two daschunds and now also a rescue puppy.I am a social worker in private practise.I am heading up Phileo Dynamix Counseling Services.We focus on support and social services in the healthcare industry. Please visit phileodynamix.co.za for more info.
Ronel Grobler
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I was sitting next to my dad’s hospital bed. The lights were dimmed, curtains slightly drawn. The scent of sanitiser intermingled with hospital food aromas filled the air. Such a clinical setting. Not the ideal scene for my last memories of my dad. Death knocking on the door He never...Read more
Are you a hedge builder?

Are you a hedge builder?

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Paul Grobler
“Demons watch you through the ink of your tattoos”, my daughter’s friend told her a few weeks ago, “when you have tattoos you give them a door into your life. My grandfather told me so”. My daughter was discussing some contemporary matters of the day during a youth group meeting,...Read more
Interview with a Retrenchee

Interview with a Retrenchee

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Paul Grobler
It’s an early evening on a Cape winters weekday. It’s dark. A man is walking, alone, his collar up to shield against the icy breeze coming from the cold Atlantic. Knowing it’s not quite safe to be alone at this hour, he keeps his head down but glances around every...Read more
3 ways to dislodge yourself when you’re stuck in your bible reading

3 ways to dislodge yourself when you’re stuck in your bible reading

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Paul Grobler
I remember as a boy, there were a few times I tried to bargain with God. If he would just answer my prayer and let me have that blue BMX or this Atari video game console, I would do some things for him in return. Do you know what I...Read more
The Masked Giant

The Masked Giant

I am a fellow Christ follower and married to Paul.We have a teenage daughter, a tween son, two daschunds and now also a rescue puppy.I am a social worker in private practise.I am heading up Phileo Dynamix Counseling Services.We focus on support and social services in the healthcare industry. Please visit phileodynamix.co.za for more info.
Ronel Grobler
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We are reaching the end of all this giant talk. But one giant still lurks in the paragraphs of this post, one last giant we still need to dislodge from his hiding place… In my previous post I wrote about survival in the valleys of our lives. Little did I...Read more
The Giant of Doubting Castle and the Question of the Keys of Promise

The Giant of Doubting Castle and the Question of the Keys of Promise

I am a fellow Christ follower and married to Paul.We have a teenage daughter, a tween son, two daschunds and now also a rescue puppy.I am a social worker in private practise.I am heading up Phileo Dynamix Counseling Services.We focus on support and social services in the healthcare industry. Please visit phileodynamix.co.za for more info.
Ronel Grobler
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Giants are a bit of a theme in our house lately. We have just completed a giant detox eating plan for two weeks to stop us from becoming giants ourselves (it helped somewhat). Also, Paul wrote a blog series on the giants in the Bible, and that made me think...Read more
Time is on my side! (Giants part 3)

Time is on my side! (Giants part 3)

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Paul Grobler
“Ti-i-i-ime, is on my side… yes it is!”. Remember that line from the movie Fallen, starring Denzil Washington? Wow, I can’t hear that song without thinking of that movie anymore! Or what about the block buster Noah starring Russel Crowe? City of Angels starring Nicholas Cage and Meg Ryan? Do...Read more