Is addiction bad for your family?

Is addiction bad for your family?

I am a friend of Paul & Ronel.I am married to Veronica (32 years) and have already had a fantastic life with her. We work together, believe in Jesus together and have the most amazing family together. I have four brothers (spread across the world and miss them very much) and four (my lucky number) wonderful kids, Andrew married to Mbali, Monica married to ABInBev, Debbie married to Cape Town, and Mark, a recovering addict.

Our life has always been overflowing, from the time we met, spending every weekend attending the local South African Music scene and loving every band we could find. Up until today, where our kids stretch us, a lot further than we ever imagined.

I have spent 25 years in the Data Management field, where I met Paul, and will hopefully work with data until I go home. Veronica is a best teacher that I know, I needed her during my not so stellar school career. I often relate how bad my school marks where when I got G for German, E for English and D for Dutch. Maths, Science and Accounting got me through.

Every year, except during lockdown, we run away from our amazing kids and spend 10 days riding motorbikes in the USA, Canada and/or Europe. The only time I stop thinking about Data is when I get on the bike and I can enjoy a non-data holiday with my brother Stuart, another special person in our lives.
Howard Diesel
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The immediate answer is definitely, but the final answer is that it may be beneficial for your spiritual life! You just need to spend five minutes with a recovering addict or one hour in a family support group for addicts to realise that you have entered a hornet’s nest. As...Read more
Letter in the sand: an open conversation with the LGBT community

Letter in the sand: an open conversation with the LGBT community

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Paul Grobler
Our family loves watching movies together. From when the kids were small, it was an opportunity to learn to accommodate each other’s tastes. Sunday nights are movie nights, and we all take turns to pick a movie for the night. We make popcorn, smoothies and later some hot chocolate. When...Read more
Interview with a Retrenchee

Interview with a Retrenchee

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Paul Grobler
It’s an early evening on a Cape winters weekday. It’s dark. A man is walking, alone, his collar up to shield against the icy breeze coming from the cold Atlantic. Knowing it’s not quite safe to be alone at this hour, he keeps his head down but glances around every...Read more
Five songs and a Two-Step

Five songs and a Two-Step

I am a fellow Christ follower and married to Paul.We have a teenage daughter, a tween son, two daschunds and now also a rescue puppy.I am a social worker in private practise.I am heading up Phileo Dynamix Counseling Services.We focus on support and social services in the healthcare industry. Please visit phileodynamix.co.za for more info.
Ronel Grobler
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What do Queen, Peter Sarstedt, Paul Simon, Maroon 5 and Abba have in common? Apart from them making up a pretty good Saturday afternoon playlist, they also help tie this post together… let me explain. My blog posts so far all dealt with the adversities we experience. Seems like I...Read more
3 ways to dislodge yourself when you’re stuck in your bible reading

3 ways to dislodge yourself when you’re stuck in your bible reading

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Paul Grobler
I remember as a boy, there were a few times I tried to bargain with God. If he would just answer my prayer and let me have that blue BMX or this Atari video game console, I would do some things for him in return. Do you know what I...Read more
Polarisation: caught in the crossfire like me?

Polarisation: caught in the crossfire like me?

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Paul Grobler
Cape Town is one of the most beautiful places on the planet. We have everything. The sweeping Table Mountain range, the stunning beaches, one of only six floral kingdoms in the world. Some of the best restaurants globally. A host of sub cultures that makes the city truly fascinating to...Read more
The Masked Giant

The Masked Giant

I am a fellow Christ follower and married to Paul.We have a teenage daughter, a tween son, two daschunds and now also a rescue puppy.I am a social worker in private practise.I am heading up Phileo Dynamix Counseling Services.We focus on support and social services in the healthcare industry. Please visit phileodynamix.co.za for more info.
Ronel Grobler
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We are reaching the end of all this giant talk. But one giant still lurks in the paragraphs of this post, one last giant we still need to dislodge from his hiding place… In my previous post I wrote about survival in the valleys of our lives. Little did I...Read more
Uncle Screwtape’s guilt games during lockdown

Uncle Screwtape’s guilt games during lockdown

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Paul Grobler
Who in the world is Uncle Screwtape? If a British person in the 1940s were to look at this title, they probably would have ignored the reference to Uncle Screwtape (they knew who he was) and wondered “what in the world is lockdown?”. Or perhaps not… It was the time...Read more